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Your daughter is a wife of the future – how should you prepare her?!

3/1/2007

Iman Ismail

Our children are a gift from God and given to us for safekeeping. God asks all guardians about their subjects…was he protected or did he go astray!!

Mothers build future generations and are the first influence. They must be prepared to be mothers and wives and bear the responsibility of a household. This is a big word that has multiple aspects because a household is like a small community that must provide cleanliness, order and various skills that require a girl be prepared from a young age.

1. Cleanliness

A girl in a house is like basil and so she must leave a good impression. The most laudable characteristic that we want to inculcate in girls from an early age is cleanliness. It is not a trifling matter but rather must be inculcated in girls from when they are small and is divided into the following:

Personal hygiene

Accustomed to bathing regularly

Washing hands and the face three times at least

Teeth washing

Nail trimming and offering praise every time she requests that this be done

Note:

Take care to ensure that there are bedclothes and house clothes, and try as much as you can to keep them clean.

While handling food she should always use a towel or apron.

Hand washing before and after meals.

Cleanliness in the home:

Girls should grow up getting used to seeing a clean room with a bin to put waste in so that they grow accustomed to not throwing rubbish just anywhere and gets accustomed to putting everything in its right place. In the evening she should clean the room as much as she can with the assistance of her mother and in accordance with the advice of the Prophet, PBUH, “wash your courtyards and don’t be like the Jews and the Christians”.

Mothers must remember that this is part of our true religion. They should teach their daughters cleanliness and dedicate a reward to their cleanest children in an effort to inculcate this refinement and remind them, “Cleanliness is godliness”.

Teaching purity and its principles such as washing after going to the toilet, its conditions and know how whether at home or outside the home, and that is for habituation.

[Incomprehensible] gradually from her room to outside while making sure not to request fragile things. It is necessary to emphasise that angels enter clean homes and flee dirty ones, and that she is obeying God as long as she obeys her mother.

Chores should be lessened during her studies and her bag and stationary should be checked for cleanliness while always encouraging her with kind words. After meals she should take her plate to the sink and gradually start washing it with the help of her mother at first before being left to do it on her own.

Warnings

Chocolate wrappers should not be thrown on the ground but rather in a wastebasket and the main rubbish bin should be emptied before bedtime.

Eating without restrictions while moving around the house; she should stay in one place while eating.

The more care is taken of cleanliness the more care is taken to preserve it and the result is a sense of belonging to the place.

2. Order

Order is a continuation of cleanliness, because there is no cleanliness without order…Getting girls used to organising wardrobes with the assistance of their mothers, organising bookshelves, putting clothes in their place, washing her personal things and washing her personal things and gradually learning from her mother how to wash.

And [statement ends here].

This statement was originally published in Arabic on Ikhwan Online. 

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My problem with circumcision…what should I do?!

1/4/2012

M.M – Egypt

I am a girl who will be getting married soon, and I have read that one of the essentials of personal hygiene for girls is circumcision, and that failure to circumcise can lead to problems in a couple’s private life. Since I’m not circumcised, I decided to seek advice on this subject and ask whether circumcision is mandatory or not, whether it has negative effects, what its positives and negatives are and how I can solve the problem if indeed there is a problem? Thank you.

Answer provided by the Advice Team at Ikhwan Online:

1. “Circumcision is Sunnah* for men and a noble trait for women” (El-Siouty).

It is not a duty for women except where there is a genuine medical need for it…Where it does have to be performed its advantages are that it reduces the sexual arousal rate to a rate that does not exceed the normal average at that time [sic] and causes a woman many problems because of her lack of satiation and frequent arousal.

Its disadvantages are that if it is not carried out moderately and under specialised medical supervision it may cause what is known as (female sexual frigidity), where the woman loses her ability for enjoyment and excitement during sexual intercourse.

As for hygiene, this is innate in accordance with the teachings of the Prophet**. The most important of these habits is cleaning of the pubic region, the sensitive area surrounding the vulva in front and the anus, and plucking armpit hair and all the other innate habits for women mentioned in the Prophet’s hadith.

“10 innate habits: cutting the moustache and letting the beard grow, using the miswak***, cleaning the nostrils with water, nail cutting, cleaning the finger joints, plucking armpit hair, shaving pubic hair and lowering water. And Zakaria quoted Mosa’ab as saying: “and I forgot the 10th, and it is rinsing the mouth with water. Qotayba added to this, quoting Wakee’a: “lowering water means washing the genital area after going to the toilet” (Sa7ee7 Muslim****).

If you feel that you need to check whether you need to be circumcised – and you know best about this – you can go to a female gynecologist – and to nobody else – for a consultation, while bearing in mind that we think you probably don’t need it.

* Sunnah is the way of life prescribed as normative for Muslims on the basis of the teachings and practices of Muhammad and interpretations of the Quran”.

** The term used is سنن الفطرة sunan el fitra, “a collection of hygienic or cosmetic practices enjoined by the Prophet Mohamed”.

*** Miswak: teeth cleaning stick.

**** Sa7ee7 Muslim: “is one of the al-Kutub al-Sittah (six major ahadith) of the hadith in Sunni Islam. It is the second most authentic hadith collection after Sahih al-Bukhari, and is highly acclaimed by Sunni Muslims”.

This was originally published in Arabic on Ikhwan Online.

The Supreme Guide: Christians and women are forbidden from being President of the Republic pursuant to jurisprudential preference

6/11/2007

Ikhwan Online

Supreme Guide of the Muslim Brotherhood His Excellence Mr Mohamed Mehdy Akef said that the Muslim Brotherhood’s opinion that women and Christians may not hold the office of President of the Republic is based on jurisprudential preference agreed on by the group after lengthy discussions of the matter.

The Supreme Guide added in comments made to Australian newspaper “The Age” on Tuesday that the Muslim Brotherhood’s decision that no Copt or woman may hold presidential office is not a political decision, but rather based on jurisprudential priorities and the opinion of most clerics.

His Excellence added that America itself rejects that a Protestant or a Catholic hold the presidential office: John Kennedy, a Catholic, was shot. He was the only non-Evangelical president in America.

[Akef] affirmed that what has been said about the Association of Muslim Scholars in the press is completely untrue and that the Muslim Brotherhood regard the People’s Assembly as the legislative authority that may not be usurped. The Council of Clerics is an elected council concerned with issued reports used by the legislative assembly. Where there is a dispute the Supreme Constitutional Court and not the Association of Senior Clerics has the right to rule on it.

The Supreme Guide underlined that the primary motivation of the group in issuing such a programme is the good of the Ummah. The Muslim Brotherhood are presenting their programmes for the sake of Egypt’s renaissance and so that it joins the ranks of developed countries.

This was originally published in Arabic on Ikhwan Online.